Does liking femboys make you gay?
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Not really, also ya, it is kinda complicated
So I was sitting down and thinking, what should I write about?
And then I started thinking about Bridget, the newest trans fem rep in video games, but truth be told I don’t want to touch the whole “discussion” around her.
So let’s go for something less … hot and a topic that is cuter.
So does liking femboys make you gay?
The answer is
Why do you care?
I mean like I can and will go into whether or not femboys are gay but like I think there is something fundamentally wrong with the fact that people have to even ask the question.
I believe that the debate about whether femboys are gay is because there is still a stigma around being gay, whether that be from outside of internal sources.
Boys, Girls, and others, there is nothing wrong with being gay. Ok, let’s get that cleared up so imma say it again.
THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH BEING GAY.
Regardless of who you fall in love with and what you are attracted to, you will still be loved and accepted by people. Now that might not be everyone you know but truth be told, if someone doesn’t accept you for being gay they don’t deserve to be in your life.
Because if someone doesn’t accept you for being different from what they expected then they didn’t really like you for who you are just the idea of you. And that is a problem with them, not you.
It is not normal for people to reject and hate someone that they love for such an incidental thing as being gay. Most people regardless of their previously held beliefs change their minds when someone comes out to them. They may be awkward or ignorant about the subject but if they do care they will respect you for who you are and educate themselves to be a more understanding person.
Ok, that’s it. Even if femboys are gay there is not a problem with that because there is no problem with being gay.
Now on to the real answer so, drumroll, please.
Does liking femboys make you gay?
If you just like them because they are cute, then not really it is like just appreciating feminine beauty, the way you can appreciate a dress or someone’s makeup but not be attracted to them
If you are attracted to them then the following applies.
If you identify as male
Yes if you like them because they are guys, no if you like them because they are feminine
If you identify as female, It’s a similar answer
Yes if you like them because they are feminine. No, if you like them because they are guys.
Now let me just cover myself and say that attraction is a spectrum. So like me determining whether something is gay is like arguing that water is wet. It’s tricky and no answer will be satisfying.
Whether or not you are gay is something only you can decide. It’s up to you to determine for yourself how you identify.
Labels like, “gay, queer, trans, bi” are only there for you to be comfortable and for you to understand yourself.
Bottom line, don’t worry about it too much it’s really not a big deal.
Love,
Ani
The Trans-Feminine Gaze 